The only gift that really matters is putting yourself first, here's why

The only gift that really matters is putting yourself first, here's why

During the holidays, we often feel immense pressure to give back, to be present, and to go above and beyond. The harsh truth is, you can’t give back if you have nothing to give - and that’s okay.

Now, we want to make it clear that we don’t just mean the concept of giving gifts. We specifically mean giving your energy, your time, and your presence. At times, this can be overwhelming but it’s often overshadowed by this obligation to constantly be cheerful during the holidays. This is something we don’t talk about enough.

Don’t get us wrong, gifts are awesome and can be such a kind gesture. But, let's be real - it’s not the end all be all. The only gift that really matters every holiday season for you AND for others is the gift of putting yourself first, here’s why:


It’s the key to happiness, love, and productivity
During the holiday season, there can be pressure to make the people we love happy. However, it can be difficult if you don’t love yourself first. By putting yourself first, everything you do will lead to happiness, love, and productivity by meeting your needs and wants.

You’ll eventually feel happier, filled with love, and be more productive when you realize you WANT to do something, other than feeling pressured to or feeling obligated to because other people are or because it is “tradition”. Your motivation to do anything should be for YOU and because YOU want to. 

Do what feels right and comfortable for you. This holiday season, give yourself the gift of happiness, love, and productivity by choosing yourself. 

Mental and physical health is more valuable than any gift
Please keep in mind that tangible gifts can be thoughtful and valuable. However, no gift should be at the expense of your mental and physical health. Holiday season is all about giving, but it’s difficult to give when you’re running on low fuel and you can’t even give to yourself. 

This is your reminder that it is okay to rest, it is okay to say no, it is okay to set boundaries, it is okay to break traditions, and it is okay to prioritize YOU - if that is what’s best for your mental well-being. Your mental and physical health goes beyond any gift money could buy.

Pushing yourself past your own limits may result in a mental and physical burnout. Treat yourself well this holiday season, because you deserve it.

Energy is felt by the ones you loves
Even if you're physically present, mentally your thoughts could be elsewhere. If you’re not feeling yourself or are being flooded with negative emotions, these emotions can be felt by or transferred over to your loved ones. 

Those closest to you can always sense when something is wrong. It is best to be open and honest with how you feel, express any concerns or emotions, and set those boundaries if necessary. This way, you and your loved ones can hopefully come to a compromise that is desired by everybody. 

Initially, it may be hard to communicate new thoughts - but it will be a weight off of your shoulders, and expectations from all parties will be understood. Remove that negative energy by putting yourself, and go through the holidays with good energy and positive vibes. We’ll be sending lots of love and good energy your way. 

Good things will happen to you
When you start prioritizing yourself, good things will happen to you. Of course, it doesn’t magically happen, or instantly. But, as you start allowing positive things to happen to you, you will no longer allow yourself to settle for anything less than what you deserve.

This holiday season, if something is weighing you down - take it off your shoulder! When you finally stand for what’s most important - YOU, everything else will start to fall in line. 

Don’t do yourself a disservice by settling for situations that you aren’t comfortable with. Know your limits and what you are comfortable with, and let that be known. Live by your own standards and good things will come.

You can’t be there for others, if you aren’t there for yourself
During the holiday season, you may feel like you want to go above or beyond for your loved ones to show them you love them and you care for them. But, you can only truly be there for others, once you are there for yourself.

Every relationship is a reflection of who you are, and if you don’t feel your best, it will reflect in your relationships. Being a good friend, partner, and family member takes energy that you might not have if you burn yourself out.

Make the conscious effort to be there for yourself before you can be there for anyone else. By allowing yourself to focus on being the best possible version of yourself, you will flourish and in turn, your relationships will flourish. Remember that you are loved, no matter what. 


We hope this blog is a reminder that you are your biggest responsibility, even during the holiday season. It is important to take care of yourself mentally and physically, and do any self-care activities necessary, as it can be a stressful and overwhelming time.

From the Vitae Apparel team, we hope you have a wonderful holiday filled with love, joy, and peace. Make sure to rest when you can to recharge for the new year. 

And remember, the only gift that really matters is the gift of putting yourself first. 

With love,
Vitae Apparel

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